Read: Proverbs 31 in a different translation than you would normally use
Our Proverbs 31 woman is characterised by her strength. Strength comes from security and security comes from identity – knowing who we are and whose we are.
Consider: Daughters of the king
Have you found your true identity? Do you realise that you are royalty? You are God’s child, a daughter of the King. You have a heavenly Father who delights in you and knows how many hairs are on your head. There is no obstacle that He cannot help you overcome and no pain that is too deep for Him to heal. All you have to do is ask – you have unrestricted access. You don’t need knock on the door and wait. You don’t need to book an appointment or schedule a FaceTime. As a daughter of the King, you are precious, chosen, redeemed and free.
Context: Why bother?
We have all had different experiences of what an earthly father is like and what it means to be a daughter. Some have had good experiences and some have been bad. How we view our earthly father will affect how we view God. Often, we can think that God relates to us in the same way that our earthly dads do. But we know that God is a good Father who wants good things for His children. Maybe it feels like God is hiding from you but let me tell you that God wants to be found by His children. Maybe you think that your plans for your life are better than God’s but let me tell you that your Father has greater plans for you.
You were bought at an incredibly high price. The value of something is determined by how much someone will pay for it. You were bought at the cost of Jesus’ life. He sent His only son to die in your place.
Over to you: Ask yourself…..
How has your experience of an earthly father impacted the way you see your Heavenly Father?
Do you truly believe that God is a good Father who has good gifts for His children?
If you are a parent, what has becoming a mother taught you about the love that God has for His children?
What one next step can you take to help yourself (or someone else) to experience more of God as Father?
Her children rise up and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”
Proverbs 31:28-29 ESV
We know that our Proverbs 31 woman is a mother, simply because her children are mentioned in the passage – “her children stand and bless her”. What a joy, to have your children bless you. Many of us will become physical mothers are some point in our lives – whether that be through childbirth, marriage, adoption, fostering or by other means. But whether we physically have children or not, we all have a role to play when it comes to mothering.
Consider: You have something to bring
The dictionary definition of mothering is explained as this: “to bring up a child with care and affection”. Given that definition, there is more than one woman who has brought me up with care and affection. I have a biological mother and a step-mother. I had two grandmothers. I have aunties and great aunties. I have close friends decades older than me with many more years of experience than I. I’ve also had a number of spiritual mothers that have loved me and brought me up over the years.
Context: Why bother?
The best example of a spiritual mother that I could share with you is my beautiful friend Dionne. There is so much of the Proverbs 31 woman in her. Dionne loves children and young people. Not in a gushy way. It a way that requires action. Because love is a verb. Dionne sees the kids that other people don’t. She speaks life and encouragement over them. She tells them that she believes in them and then shows them that her words aren’t empty. She tells them that they can do it. She doesn’t give up on them when they mess up. Dionne doesn’t just love the well-dressed young people who are on their best behaviour, in fact, I think she has a soft spot for those who are quite the opposite! She meets them where they’re at and she is entirely herself. Dionne loves how Jesus loves – without boundaries, without exception, regardless of social status, background, race, age or ethnicity. When young people are around Dionne, she is bringing them up with care and affection – she is mothering them. She’s there in the good times and the bad times. She is consistent and doesn’t need to be double guessed. I know of countless children and young people that she has mothered and I know that there are countless more that I’m unaware of. With or without physical children, we all have a role to play in mothering children.
Over to you: Ask yourself…..
How have the examples of mothering that you’ve experienced in your own life impacted the way that you see mothering?
Would you consider yourself a spiritual mother? Why?
We all have a part to play. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you where and how you can be a mother to someone.