Night Light

Your Soaring Kite

There is a proper time and procedure for every matter. Ecclesiastes 8:6

The apostle Paul reminds us that childhood is a temporary state: “When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me” (1 Corinthians 13:11). Even with proper preparation and forethought, the task of releasing your grown children is never easy.

The late Erma Bombeck likened the parenting responsibility to flying a kite. You start by trying to get the little craft off the ground. You’re running down the road as fast as you can with this awkward kite flapping in the wind behind you. Sometimes it crashes to the ground, so you tie on a longer tail and try again. Your heart pounds when it catches a gust of wind and flies dangerously close to the power lines. Then, without warning, the kite tugs on the string and ascends into the sky. You release your grip little by little until you come to the end of the twine. You stand on tiptoe holding the last inch between your thumb and forefinger. Then, reluctantly, you let go, permitting the kite to soar unfettered and independent in God’s blue heaven. It’s an exhilarating and terrifying moment, one ordained from the day of your child’s birth. Your task as a parent is finished. The kite is free and, for the first time in twenty years, so are you.

We urge you to keep this final event of parenting in mind. Your goal is to instill the necessary components of character and self-control so that your young adult is equipped to stand alone. The centerpiece of that assignment, as we have seen, is to give your sons and daughters an unshakable faith in Jesus Christ that will see them through life’s twists and turns.

Before you say good night…

Do you have a clear fix on the ultimate goal of your parenting years?

Are you on target in meeting that objective?

O Lord, how difficult it seems to get this right! Help us to stay focused on our first priority as parents—delivering our children safely into Your hands. Amen.

  • From Night Light For Parents, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
    Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved.

Illustration adapted from Erma Bombeck, “Fragile Strings Join Parents, Child,” Arizona Republic, 15 May 1977, as quoted in Bringing Up Boys copyright © 2001 by James Dobson, Inc. Published by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. Used with permission. All rights reserved.

 

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Night Light

Your Soaring Kite

There is a proper time and procedure for every matter. Ecclesiastes 8:6

The apostle Paul reminds us that childhood is a temporary state: “When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me” (1 Corinthians 13:11). Even with proper preparation and forethought, the task of releasing your grown children is never easy.

The late Erma Bombeck likened the parenting responsibility to flying a kite. You start by trying to get the little craft off the ground. You’re running down the road as fast as you can with this awkward kite flapping in the wind behind you. Sometimes it crashes to the ground, so you tie on a longer tail and try again. Your heart pounds when it catches a gust of wind and flies dangerously close to the power lines. Then, without warning, the kite tugs on the string and ascends into the sky. You release your grip little by little until you come to the end of the twine. You stand on tiptoe holding the last inch between your thumb and forefinger. Then, reluctantly, you let go, permitting the kite to soar unfettered and independent in God’s blue heaven. It’s an exhilarating and terrifying moment, one ordained from the day of your child’s birth. Your task as a parent is finished. The kite is free and, for the first time in twenty years, so are you.

We urge you to keep this final event of parenting in mind. Your goal is to instill the necessary components of character and self-control so that your young adult is equipped to stand alone. The centerpiece of that assignment, as we have seen, is to give your sons and daughters an unshakable faith in Jesus Christ that will see them through life’s twists and turns.

Before you say good night…

Do you have a clear fix on the ultimate goal of your parenting years?

Are you on target in meeting that objective?

O Lord, how difficult it seems to get this right! Help us to stay focused on our first priority as parents—delivering our children safely into Your hands. Amen.

  • From Night Light For Parents, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
    Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved.

Illustration adapted from Erma Bombeck, “Fragile Strings Join Parents, Child,” Arizona Republic, 15 May 1977, as quoted in Bringing Up Boys copyright © 2001 by James Dobson, Inc. Published by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. Used with permission. All rights reserved.

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Growing with God

“Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation.” 1 Peter 2:2

Our culture tends to emphasize personal growth at the cost of marriage commitment. Humans are made for a lifelong growth curve, and the best place to experience it is inside a faithful, God‐blessed marriage. When the Lord Jesus is the “third person” in our union, we can flourish with a spiritual intimacy and growth unavailable to others. I (jcd) am reminded of a letter a woman wrote to me:

Dear Dr. Dobson: My husband recently left me after fifteen years of marriage.

We had a great relationship, but something was missing—we had no spiritual bond between us. Please tell young couples that there will always be a void in their lives together without Christ. A good marriage must have its foundation in Him in order to experience lasting love, peace, and joy. I am now growing steadily in my walk with the Lord, but I am alone.

Don’t forget to grow with God together. The “pure spiritual milk” Peter writes about is the Word of God. Along with Christian fellowship and prayer, the Bible will feed the deepest hungers of your heart. And you’ll find the soul‐mate of your dreams—sitting right beside you!

Just between us…

  • Do our church experiences nurture our spiritual life?
  • Do we have friends who encourage our spiritual growth?
  • How can we do a better job of growing together in God’s Word?

Lord, give us a hunger for Your Word. May we claim the spiritual growth You promise and the emotional and physical intimacy that can come with it. Amen.

  • From Night Light For Couples, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
    Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved.
 

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