NIght Light For Couple

Roman Bridges

“The winds blew and beat against that house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.” Matthew 7:25

Yesterday we talked about being committed to your partner for better and for worse. Another way to look at this issue was once related by the late Dr. Francis Schaeffer. He described the bridges that were built in Europe by the Romans in the first and second centuries A.D. The bridges still stand today, despite the unreinforced brick and mortar with which they were made, because they are used for nothing but foot traffic. If an eighteen‐wheel semi were driven across those historic structures, they would crumble in a cloud of dust and debris.

Marriages that lack an iron‐willed determination to hang together are like those Roman bridges. They appear to be secure and may indeed remain upright for many years—until they are put under heavy pressure. Then the supports split and the structure crumbles.

Is your marriage constructed to withstand unusual stress as well as normal wear? Take the time to install a proper foundation—the Lord Jesus Christ. Then build your relationship on habits and attitudes that will sustain it under heavy pressure.

Just between us…

  • Has there ever been a time when our marriage seemed less than solid?
  • Do we know a couple whose marriage has stayed secure under stress?
  • What’s their secret? Do we see any cracks—even tiny ones—beginning to appear in our marriage? What can we do to repair them?

Father, we turn to the unshakable truths of Your Word and the unfailing promise of Your presence to hold our marriage together. Thank You that we can live and love securely—even under stress—because You are in this marriage with us. Amen.

  • From Night Light For Couples, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
    Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved.

NIght Light For Parents

Legacy of a Good Man

A good man leaves an inheritance for his children’s children. Proverbs 13:22

Dr. Willis B. Dobson was a good man. He was also my (JCD’s) uncle. He earned his Ph.D. in Shakespearean English at the University of Texas and taught for more than forty years at a small Christian college. He worked for peanuts compared to what he could have earned at a state university, but he had other priori-ties than acquiring wealth. When his beloved wife succumbed to cancer, Uncle Willis rededicated his life to the service of others. At age seventy he began a taxi service for what he called “old people.” He set up a refreshment stand in front of his house for the trash collectors. One frigid night in December, Uncle Willis and his son, Bill, walked past a drunken man sitting on a curb. My uncle suddenly stopped, went back, and placed his overcoat around the man’s shoulders. “Why did you do that?” asked Bill. “That coat is brand-new.”

“Because,” Uncle Willis replied, “I have two coats and that man has none.”

Willis B. Dobson was simply following the command of his God (see Luke 3:11). He never received great acclaim for his selfless commitment to others, but he was remembered with deep affection by his family and was a role model for me. I hope I can leave that kind of legacy to my family.

Before you say good night…

Are you modeling an attitude of service to your kids?

What were your most selfless acts in the last week? In the last year?

How can you do more for others?

Dear Father, the months and years speed by so quickly. Help us to live purposefully, remembering that our legacy to our children has little to do with money—and everything to do with how we heed and obey Your Spirit. Amen.

  • From Night Light For Parents, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
    Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved.

Bible Gateway

A bit Of My History

After I married, things did not get better between my husband and I. He had ruff sex with me and never a loving word. I am so ashamed to this day that I did everything I could to lose this unloved baby but did not have another abortion. In my mental state my pregnancy was hard and sad for the most part, I truly loved my child but could not share tender moments in my marriage about this beautiful thing that was happening to me. A CHILD, MY CHILD After the abortions and my sins God still blessed me… I understand my daughter loneliness when her husband was at sea for 6 months while she was pregnant plus, I had this cold husband that did not help me at all emotionally as well. I loved my baby more than I understood then. OMG, what a beautiful thing be able to see, more than, then,  on in life after Jesus makes all clear. Difficult life but worth being alive because Of Salvation.

We had many barbeques and they all came to them mainly not to be proudful because people loved me. Still, amazed of some people hearts.

Loving me is not easy for many people. I am doing better not after I realized God’s love is so very big. Agape, real, true, deep, forever and more.

When I lived then with my mental illnesses that became worse s time went by and life harder. I was just walking without any idea I was, by Faith alone.

Wow, how other dark the days after I came to America for many years. I decided to come to America and raise my child away from my abuser, just in case. I left a great Job as a Supervisor in the Communication office that had many other duties. besides making calls also by Satellite and for the employees of the small base in La Maddalena Sardinia.

I was in Italy before marrying then after marrying when I found out that my husband was having an affair I had my job back then the promotion later. I left a life where I still did not realize I was hurting so very bad to start a new harder road. Wow, God saved me in many ways and times,

Later,

Pat.