“Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity.” Ephesians 5:15
Overcommitment is a marriage killer. When your week is filled with the demands of fifty, sixty, or even seventy hours at the office, the pressures of a new baby, making meals, night classes, housework, church programs, replacing the broken window, the kids’ band and football practices, Bible studies, painting the house, caring for your aunt with the broken leg… well, you get the idea. How can a husband and wife seek to communicate with each other when they’re too worn out to talk? How can they enjoy praying together when every moment is programmed? How can they enjoy a sexual relationship when they just want to collapse into bed each evening?
A few years ago some friends of ours decided to do something about this dilemma. They sold their house and moved to a less expensive home so they could reduce their hours at work and spend more time with each other and their children. That kind of downward mobility is almost unheard of today. Have they regretted it? Not for a moment.
Just between us…
- Are you satisfied with the amount of time we have for rest, renewal, and relationship building?
- Did we overcommit ourselves in the past week or month? How did that happen? How can we prevent it from happening again?
- What activities most often consume the time we could better spend with each other and with God? Can we give some of them up?
Dear Heavenly Father, we find it so much easier to fill our lives with “doing” instead of “being.” Forgive us for our misplaced values and careless living, and show us how to keep our priorities straight. Amen.
- From Night Light For Couples, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
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