Speaking with Wisdom in an Age of Outrage
When my brother was little,
With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse human beings, who have been made in God’s likeness. Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers and sisters, this should not be. Can both fresh water and salt water flow from the same spring? My brothers and sisters, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice.
But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness. (james 3:9–18).
So, what is the connection between wisdom and speech? One is the source and the other is the product. Jesus once said, “No good tree bears bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. Each tree is recognized by its own fruit. People do not pick figs from thornbushes, or grapes from briers. A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of” (Luke 6:43–45 emphasis added). Our words are the indicators of what kind of wisdom is inside us.
Speech that is dishonoring to God—let’s call it “unwise speech”—follows the pattern of earthly wisdom. Wise speech that honors God follows the pattern of heavenly wisdom.
Years ago, I freelanced as a copywriter, writing print ads and video scripts for small businesses. As anyone in advertising can tell you, there are techniques to creating ads that make people want to buy, whether they need what you’re selling or not. I was careful about my client list, and used my wily wordsmithing skills to sell things like denture liners and freeze-dried applesauce. But plenty of people harness the power of words to promote unholy purposes, not only in the marketplace but in their lives and relationships. It doesn’t matter how clever or convincing our arguments are: if we use our words to lift ourselves up while tearing others down, we are operating out of what James called “earthly, unspiritual, demonic” wisdom, the kind that springs from envy and selfish ambition.
Paul fleshes out this concept when he contrasts the Fruit of the Spirit with the acts of the flesh in Galatians 5:16–26. It’s easy for us to focus in on the problematic behaviors described in Galatians 5, like drunkenness and sexual immorality, while skipping over the problematic attitudes that enable them tucked in the middle of the passage. But let’s stop and take a good hard look at the heart conditions Paul is calling out: hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions, and envy.
These are acts of the flesh—the earthly wisdom that tells us that we should act and speak in the way that feels best at the moment, that we need to fight for what we think we’re due, and that we are justified in lashing out at those who get in our way. These are the attitudes that tempt us to cave into our innate desire to be right, to be better than somebody else, to have the last word in an argument. These are the obsessions that make us replay slights and insults, real and perceived, in an endless loop in our minds, until we’re roiling with negative emotions that are ready to boil over and scald anyone close enough to grab our handle. This is a miserable and miserably common, way to live.
I’m sure we can all think of times when we’ve listened to that kind of wisdom, when the voice that speaks those words, selfish, hurtful, and hateful, is the more enticing and convincing. We’ve not only allowed the weeds of hatred, envy, or factionalism to take root in our lives, but we’ve often tended and nurtured them like prized heirloom roses. Left unchecked, they can choke the joy and beauty out of life, strangle the good fruit growing alongside them, and leave us with a soul full of Bitterroot.
Worse, society seems to cheer on these attitudes. Go on social media or turn on the TV, and you’re likely to see exactly the kind of hatred, discord, selfish ambition and factionalism James and Paul warned us against. Outrage has become the new national pastime. I’ll never forget the Sunday when a man came up to me after the service and told me about his elderly mother, who had taken to watching political programming and cable news most of the day. “She was a lot nicer when she watched soap operas.” Ouch! What a sad commentary on the stuff filling our minds.
If unwise speech feeds our own base instincts and selfish ambitions, often at other’s expense, it seems obvious then that wise speech promotes God’s purposes, for the good of others. It manifests in the traits described in James 3:17: But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.
It doesn’t take much self-reflection or headline scanning to realize that these characteristics aren’t very popular, or at least not universally practiced. They certainly don’t make us feel powerful and important. Instead they may make us feel vulnerable and insecure, as if people could take advantage of us if we lived that way. But I think we confuse this fruit of the Spirit with the generic niceness so many of us have been trained to display.
James penned what many people consider the most demanding book of the New Testament. Like his half-brother, Jesus, he managed to speak hard truths and urge people to take difficult, counter-cultural action, with mercy, consideration, and purity of heart. He submitted to and promoted God’s purposes in his writing, for the edification of all. Proverbs 27:6 says, “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” Wise speech is not necessarily speech that makes us feel good—it is speech that does us good, whether it is easy to swallow or not. Sometimes hard things need to be said. But they need to be said with mercy and consideration, and spring from pure motives that have the recipient’s best interests at heart.
The Creative Aspect of Wise Speech
There is a creative aspect to wise speech—not creative in the artistic sense, but creative in the sense of bringing about something good. As James 3:18 says, when we sow peace, we reap a harvest of righteousness. And who wouldn’t want to reap a harvest of righteousness? This creative, productive aspect of our speech is one of the ways that we reflect the image of God, whose words sparked all of creation.
Let’s take a look at John 1:1–5, one of the most theologically rich statements in all of Scripture.
In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. He was with God in the beginning. Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made. In him was life, and that life was the light of all mankind. The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.
Remember when we talked about the term for “Word” in this passage being logos, meaning the wisdom that is revealed by words and actions? John 1 shows us that the revelation of God’s wisdom in word and deed is the ultimate creative force. It was God’s wisdom that enabled him to speak the world into being, bringing light and life out of nothingness, and it is God’s self-revelation in Jesus, the Word of God, that enables those who receive him to experience the kind of life we were created for. On a smaller scale, our words and actions can bring light and life as well, when they are in line with God’s purposes.
There’s a note, scribbled on the back of a daily calendar page that has been pinned to the bulletin board in my home office for years. It says, “Risley family scholarship for women in seminary,” and was originally folded around a $50 check. That note and check changed my life.
I grew up in a family where education was valued, but college wasn’t the norm. I went back to college in my thirties, after my youngest started preschool, and became the first woman in my family to get a degree. I thrived in school, and it was becoming clear that continuing to seminary would be the best way to get equipped for the work God was calling me to, but the idea seemed so far-fetched that my professors might as well have suggested I fly to the moon!
But it didn’t seem far-fetched to my pastor, who met with me every week for three years and encouraged me to keep going. It didn’t seem far-fetched to my writing mentors, who pestered me about continuing my education. And it didn’t seem far-fetched to the Risleys, a family from my church who slipped that note and a check into my palm one Sunday. I used the $50 to pay my application fee, and launched into an adventure with God that has paid enormous dividends in my life and ministry. The words and actions of my pastor, mentors, and the Risleys opened a whole new world of opportunities to me, and in turn, I have used that opportunity to encourage and bless others.
God works out his purposes through word and deed, and he does it for our good, to redeem humanity and draw us back to him and to help us flourish. As followers of Christ, we have been invited to join him in that work, speaking wise words that promote God’s purposes and edify those around us.
Study: The book of Proverbs has many things to say about our speech habits. Find 5 verses that discuss the use of our tongues. What do they say?
Reflect: Unwise speech comes in many different forms, not just “bad words.” Sarcasm, crudeness, and others are easy to overlook as potentially unwise. What “words” might you use that may be called “unwise”?
Apply: Choose one person this week with whom you will seek to use wise speech.
When a person comes to know Christ there are steps that the Bible gives to help them understand their newly found life in Him and to build a solid foundation that will last. Many new believers struggle without this knowledge and are not given practical teaching that helps them along the way. It is imperative to the life of a new believer that they be strengthened in their faith and given the basics of the Word of God.
The Bible makes the comparison between a physical newborn baby and a spiritual one needing much attention and care. This should take place in a biblical church community where they can be nurtured and held accountable to the life that Christ has for them. If you leave a physical baby to fend for itself, it will not live long. Much is the same spiritually. If you do not nurture a newborn Christian, you leave them to try and figure it all out all by themselves. That is not the way God designed His family to operate.
Jesus explained to Nicodemus that you must be born again to see the Kingdom of Heaven. If you have made Christ Lord of your life, then welcome to the family of God. You have taken this step. You probably have many emotions and questions and are looking for a place to learn about what has happened. There is a wealth of information to learn in the Bible about your life in Christ, and it will take a lifetime for you to grow into all that God has for you. It’s okay to take your time and grow at a steady pace. This devotion is a brief overview of the gospel message and will help build the foundation you need to establish your new life in Christ.
Please take the time to process through this devotion. It’s easy to begin a journey with huge expectations of what will be accomplished and bite off more than we can chew, leaving us discouraged and eventually quitting the race. This devotion is specifically designed in a simple and short format to help avoid those pitfalls of discouragement. I encourage you to take your life in Christ a few minutes at a time, and eventually you will be running your race with joy in leaps and bounds. Give over the next season of your life to building a strong foundation in Christ.
1. Write some thoughts about your experience in coming to know Christ. Make it a point to use as much detail as possible like location, time, emotions you felt, people with you, so you can look back and be encouraged about what God did in your life. Write down any questions or thoughts you may have. Take a moment to simply accept the love of God toward you and receive that grace and truth that only Christ can give.
2. Find a biblical community to get connected to. Ask God to lead you to the church home where you are to plant yourself and take roots. When you find the place, you are supposed to be, get involved with church leaders to help you grow and be held accountable in this season.
3Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.
2 Corinthians 5:17
17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
You may still feel overwhelmed about talking to God, but there’s no right or wrong way to pray. It doesn’t have to look like a formal morning prayer or something strictly scheduled before each meal. It doesn’t have to be perfectly worded, and you don’t have to remember every detail to make it valid.
Prayer can be as simple as a series of short conversations throughout your day, just like you might text your spouse or best friend. Give Him updates, ask His opinion, and tell Him how you feel. Remember, all He wants is an authentic relationship with you.
Here are some conversation starters to help you get going:
Hey God, I missed talking to you today and wanted to tell you about what happened…
Hey God, I wanted to tell you I’m thankful for…
Hey God, I’m really having a hard time today. What I’m feeling is…
Hey God, I’m listening. What do you want to say to me?
Hey God, I know I can’t do it without you, so I’m asking you for…
Hey God, I know you know what I want, but I trust you with…
When we pray, God wants us to feel comfortable enough to spill it all out. He already knows us inside and out, so we can be honest.
The Psalms written by David are great examples of how to pray with complete vulnerability. He cries out to the Lord in anguish and he praises Him with beautiful poetry. He pours out every bit of his soul, holding nothing back. David wasn’t perfect, but he leaned on God throughout his entire life, and he’s known as a man after God’s own heart because of it. Let’s follow David’s example. Let’s be people who rely on God.
Even if it’s awkward and even if you feel hesitant, just get started. After a time, you’ll reach the point where you’re able to recognize His power and purpose in your daily life. Prayer will become as easy as talking to your best friend. Eventually, you’ll be able to make your life a prayer.
Practice- Write out the conversation starters above and add your own to the list. Post them somewhere you’ll see them and spend at least five minutes a day in conversation with God.
4 One thing have I desired of the Lord, that will I seek after; that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to behold the beauty of the Lord, and to enquire in his temple.
Wanting His Will
When we pray, God wants us to ask for things we want. But ultimately, we should want what He wants for us.
Oftentimes, we’re too focused on our small corner of the picture. From His Heavenly throne, He’s able to see the big picture of our lives and how we’re all intertwined in a bigger story. He is a good Father who lavishes love, mercy, and grace on us, and we can trust that He’s orchestrating something better than we could ever imagine.
It reminds me of years ago when I took my son to the grocery store and he was shocked to hear the price of our weekly groceries. I explained that was why I sometimes had to say no to toys he wanted. Not because I didn’t want to give things to him, but because I knew the big picture of our finances and that he needed food, clothing, and shelter more than a toy.
Similarly, we may want a relationship with a boyfriend to work out, or we may want the new position at work. But sometimes a momentary heartbreak can prevent devastation down the road. Sometimes, God is pruning us for something even better. If we press into those moments of brokenness and temporary pain, we’ll find the purpose in it.
When we pray, we should ask God for what we want, but only if it’s the best He has planned for us because we can’t see the master plan. The best example of how to seek God’s will in prayer is Jesus. In His flesh, He didn’t want to go to the cross and die a painful death. But ultimately, He believed in the larger plan for our salvation and prayed “not my will, but yours be done.”
I know it can be difficult to trust someone you don’t know, but we have promises in God’s Word that He is just, merciful, loving, kind, and provisional. As we get to know Him more, we learn to trust Him with our future. Surrendering our will for His perfect will grows our dependence on Him and deepens our relationship with Him.
Practice- As you pray today, ask God what He wants for your future. Tell Him what you want, but ask Him to help you want what He wants for you more than what you want for yourself. Notice how this perspective changes your prayers.
Yet the Lord will command his lovingkindness in the daytime, and in the night his song shall be with me, and my prayer unto the God of my life.