“Jesus spoke to them again in parables, saying: ‘The kingdom of heaven is like a king who prepared a wedding banquet for his son.’” Matthew 22:1–2
Another extremely useful communication technique is the word picture, described by Gary Smalley and John Trent in their book The Language of Love. In one of their examples, a high school teacher and football coach named Jim came home each evening too tired to even talk to his wife, Susan, leaving her frustrated and angry. Finally, Susan told Jim a story about a man who went to breakfast with his fellow coaches. The man ate his favorite omelet, then gathered up some crumbs and put them in a bag. Then he went to lunch with more friends and ate a turkey tenderloin pie and a huge salad. Again, he put a few crumbs in a doggie bag to take with him. When he came home that night, he handed his wife and their two boys the little bags of leftovers.
“That’s the way I feel when you come home with nothing left to give,” Susan said. “All we get are leftovers. I’m waiting to enjoy a meal with you, hoping for time to talk and laugh and get to know you, longing to communicate with you the way you do every day with the guys. But all we get are doggie bags. Honey, don’t you see? We don’t need leftovers. We need you.”
Susan’s word picture brought tears to Jim’s eyes and led to positive changes in their marriage. You, too, may find that a graphic word picture is more effective at getting your mate’s attention than a torrent of hostile words.
Just between us…
Shepherd”). What word picture describes your feelings about us?
Lord, teach us to share our inner selves with our spouse. Remind us of the great value of this intimate exchange between married lovers. Amen.
I ask that we love one another. 2 John 1:5
If you have a daughter, Dad, one of your primary tasks is to set the tone for her future relationships with men. If you are warm and nurturing, she’ll eventually look for a husband with similar qualities. If you communicate that she’s beautiful and feminine, she’ll be inclined to see herself that way. If you blend love and discipline in a way that conveys strength, your daughter will be more comfortable with a give-and-take marriage characterized by mutual respect. But if you reject your daughter, she’s likely to spend her life trying to find a man who can meet the needs you never fulfilled in her heart.
One wonderful way to build up your daughter is to take her on regular “dates,” which can begin even in the preschool years and extend to the teens. Let her help plan these outings. Then open doors for her, help her with her chair, and listen attentively when she speaks. Treat her with the same consideration and respect that Scripture prescribes for your wife (1 Peter 3:7). You’ll create a feeling of self-worth and begin to establish her standards for a husband, if she chooses to marry. We can’t imagine a better wedding present for a father to give his precious daughter.
Before you say good night…
How would you describe your relationship with your daughter?
What is your daughter’s current attitude toward men?
What can you do better to prepare your daughter for a successful marriage?
(father) Heavenly Father, I want my daughter(s) to know how much I love and value her. Let my every word and deed encourage her today and help shape her into the woman You want her to be. Amen.
Our Good Father
For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom his whole family in heaven and on earth derives its name.
God chose to reveal Himself to human beings as Father. It was not accidental or arbitrary or the result of an ancient patriarchal culture that insisted upon it. This fact is not politically correct and is not always embraced, even within Christianity. But it was God’s choice, and all fatherhood in the earth is based on this understanding. When we have a proper awareness of God as Father, it opens the door to understanding the whole story of Scripture and gives us insight into His role in our lives.
Heavenly Father, may this be a season when I have a revelation of You as never before. Give me the strength and courage to face the challenges of my life with the truth of Your Word, for my desire is to honor You and live for Your glory. In Jesus’ name, amen.