Family Talk Night Light for Couples

Duration: 365 days

A LIGHTHEARTED SPIRIT

“May the God of hope fill you with joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” Romans 15:13

As Christians who want to bring joy to our marriages, we might do well to remember the words of baseball great (and occasional comedian) Yogi Berra: “Ninety percent of the game is half mental.” We could say the same about life: It’s how we look at circumstances that makes all the difference. For Christians, it’s not just how we look at things; it’s at Whom we’re looking. “Rejoice in the Lord and be glad,” wrote David (Psalm 32:11). Paul gave the same advice to the Philippians. And the author of Hebrews wrote: “Let us fix our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy set before him endured the cross….” (Hebrews 12:2). Couples who keep Jesus Christ as Lord of their home seem to laugh more often and cultivate hope in their marriages more easily. Why? Because when Jesus carries the weight of your worries, your needs, and your future, lighthearted living is the natural result.

God gave us a sense of humor to help us stay “half mental” in our marriage, and surely He wants us to use and enjoy it!

JUST BETWEEN US…

  • Do you think Jesus often laughed? Do you think we would laugh more if we trusted God more?
  • What steps can we take to bring a lighthearted spirit into our home?
  • How can we worship God by our attitudes about life’s little hassles?

Most amazing God, thank You for making humor possible in our world. Forgive us when selfishness, fear, or faithlessness rob us of laughter. Amen.

  • From Night Light For Couples, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
    Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserve

Family Talk Night Light for Parents

Duration: 365 days

HIGH SCHOOL REUNION

A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

Isabel Wolseley writes in Daily Guideposts, 2002 that she felt inadequate and envious during her senior year of high school. Her classmates seemed to “have it all.” They had the right clothes, friends galore, top grades, and self-assurance. They were the ones chosen for school plays, as class officers, for special projects. Now, of course, they were receiving all the end-of-the-year awards. Isabel, who lived on a farm and whose family was less well-off than many of her classmates, had never even been nominated for an award.

It was decades later that Isabel finally got the nerve to attend a high school reunion. When she arrived and began talking to her old classmates, Isabel made a shocking discovery—she wasn’t the only one who felt inadequate back then. As one friend put it, “You lived on a farm! You had a Shetland pony to ride. A haymow to play in. Now you’re a writer and you travel all the time. I’ve always envied you!”

It is said that comparison is the root of all feelings of inadequacy. We will always come up short when we weigh our most embarrassing shortcomings against someone else’s greatest assets. We parents need to help our kids understand this concept. Scripture warns that “envy rots the bones” (Proverbs 14:30). Let’s encourage our children, instead of dwelling on others who “have it all,” to give thanks to God for loving us and preparing a place for each of us as members of His holy family.

BEFORE YOU SAY GOOD NIGHT…

Is envy robbing your children of self-confidence?

What can you do to prevent envy from seeping into your family?

O great Creator, thank You for every blessing You have bestowed on our family. Help us to avoid the trap of envy, and to guide our children to an attitude of gratitude and confidence in Your plans for their lives. Amen.

  • From Night Light For Parents, by Dr. James & Shirley Dobson
    Copyright © 2000 by James Dobson, Inc. All rights reserved.

What Your Wife Really Wants for Christmas – I Do Every Day – December 8, 2020

What Your Wife Really Wants for Christmas
By Lisa Lakey

Every year my husband dutifully asks if there is anything I would like for Christmas. And every year I rattle off a list of items I want or need but never got around to actually getting for myself. Same for you?

Guys, let’s talk. (Ladies, you’ll get a turn tomorrow.)

If you feel stuck shopping for your wife this Christmas, here are a few ideas of what your wife really wants.

She wants you to know her. Women often struggle with who we are. (No jokes about multiple personalities, guys.) We’re confident in our identities as mothers, even as wives. But if you stripped all that away, would anyone recognize us?

Let her know you see her for who God created her to be. Slip a pretty box under the tree with an invitation for dinner or even a special lunch. Spend the time getting to know her all over again.

She wants to know she can still turn your head. I know we can get in a habit of donning sweatpants and old t-shirts the moment we get home, but we still need to know we turn you on. If you haven’t noticed, we tend to see ourselves in a negative light most of the time.

Sneak a list in her stocking of the top five things that turn you on about her. Maybe it’s the way she looks at you over her shoulder, her laugh, or maybe it really is the way she looks in those sweatpants and old tees.

She wants a day off. For one day (or week?), take care of all the things your wife would normally do—laundry, kids, meal planning, kitchen clean up, the endless errands. You’ll get bonus points if at the end of the day you tell her you have no idea how she gets it all done. DO NOT say, “Today was so easy.” That is dangerous ground, fellas.

Whether she works 9-5 outside the home or not, giving her time to herself while you dive in to her daily routine shows you recognize all the things she does.

Guys, when it comes down to it, most women just want to know you love us. My husband once wrote me a love letter with 30 little sticky notes on the bathroom mirror. I loved every single one. Some just had silly faces drawn on them. I might have loved those the most.

For more insights about blessing your wife, here are some more practical ideas.

The good stuff: He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD. (Proverbs 18:22)

Action points: Considering the above suggestions, think of one “gift” you can give your wife this Christmas. And don’t wait until December 24th!

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Renewed – Homeword – December 8

Renewed

This devotional was written by Kelly McFadden

The blood of goats and bulls and the ashes of a heifer sprinkled on those who are ceremonially unclean sanctify them so that they are outwardly clean. How much more, then, will the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself unblemished to God, cleanse our consciences from acts that lead to death, so that we may serve the living God! —Hebrews 9:13-14

I bought a new jacket only to have the buttons pop off and a hole formed in the side seam. Receipt in hand, I went in to exchange the jacket. The store offered to let me return it, but they no longer had my size to complete the exchange. Not wanting a different one, I walked out with my jacket, determined to fix it.

Repairing the seams and securing the buttons later that evening, I couldn’t help but think of Christ’s sacrifice for people. He could have exchanged us when we sinned. He could have thrown out the broken models and started from scratch, creating obedient and sinless humans. Yet, instead of exchanging us or tossing us out, He loved us and died for us. He shed His blood so that we could be forgiven.

He bore the sin of each person, so that we can have eternal life with Him and be made new. Through His death and resurrection, He provided the means to patch up our imperfections, renewing us, to make us pure and holy in His eyes.

God will not give up on you. He will not exchange you or make hasty, short-term repairs. He will re-create you. Don’t be misled to think you can do it on your own. Bring your brokenness to the foot of the cross, confess your inability to cleanse yourself and ask the Lord to forgive you. Only He can make you new.

GOING DEEPER:

1. Think about a time you have forgiven someone else. What was it about the situation that allowed you to forgive them?

2.How does confession play a vital role in your life when it comes to forgiveness?

FURTHER READING:

Exodus 30:7-10Hebrews 10:21-231 John 1:9-10

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