Happy Valentine’s Day

Today is a day for some of celebration and for others it’s a day they cannot wait until it’s over. For those longing for that loved one remember that God is a God of love. He is your true bridegroom awaiting your entry in heaven, in the meantime he sent the Holy Spirit to guide you. God is with you and he will draw near to you as you draw near to him.

Emotions are fleeting. Slowly breathe in and out 10 times in times of emotional ups and downs. It takes about two minutes for our cognitive thinking to catch up with our emotions. Do not make any irrational decisions during an emotional time; doing so can lead to an unpleasant or destructive outcome. Those who react during an emotional time end up having regrets afterwards which leads to more emotional outbreaks. Enjoy the day today and reflect on good times and know that God is with you and that he loves you more than any other soul on the face of earth.

For myself, I cannot celebrate Valentines in person with my husband as he is sick with covid. However, yesterday as I was thinking about what we can do to celebrate, all of a sudden Matthew West came on a live video inviting us to a live concert. It was so affordable and I was able to send the link to my husband in which we could celebrate Valentines that way. He enjoyed it! There’s another live concert today; and it’s called the West Love Fest. Anyway, it’s helpful to think outside the box of what we can do and not dwell on what we cannot do.

Today, a couple friends sent me cards. One is mailing hers to me and showed it and read it, another sent an ecard. So if you don’t have that special someone to celebrate with physically, then create a card to someone you love. Get on Facetime or some video chat, or go on the phone if that person(s) doesn’t have that kind of technology and read it to them, describe it, and then mail it off. It doesn’t have to be perfect like a Hallmark card. I love it when my daughters make me their home made cards and write something thoughtful. That means more to me than a $5 Hallmark card, and that’s because it’s personal, from the heart, and made with love. And despite the origin of the holiday, Valentines is a day to celebrate loved ones.

I felt led to share this as I was thinking about some in our community (Marjory Stoneman Douglas) as well as other’s and my own family’s situation, and hope and pray it has blessed someone.

Overcoming Anxious Thoughts

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about emotions. These past few months have stirred up a lot of anxiety in people. There has been a lot of loss but there has been a lot of gain. For my family, there was loss of jobs, loss of income, and we’ve even lost a friend, who was an elementary teacher, due to stress. But we’ve gained a lot. Personally, I’ve gained new friends, new job opportunities, new knowledge, a new worship style, a renewed faith in God, and so much more. What the devil meant for evil, God used it for good. We can look at the bad, but what good does that do? It’s so much better to look at the good. When I dwelt on what is good, I can see that God has been providing for us, growing our family closer, and he is opening up new doors. Praise God!

Sometimes when my mind is filled with worry and I cannot dwell on good things there’s a few things I do that’s been helping me. Reciting Philippians 4:6-7 helps me a lot. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7

Other times, I’ll put on some calming worship music or play on my guitar. One of my favorites is DappyTKeys Piano Worship on YouTube. It sets the tone. Sometimes it’ll come to mind what I’m struggling with and other times I have to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal it to me.

Another thing that helps is saying the Serenity Prayer:

God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change. The courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time, enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace; Taking, as Jesus did, this sinful world as it is; not as I would have it; Trusting that you will make all things right if I surrender to your will; So that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with You forever in the next. Amen.

Sometimes I try to take control of the situation, and that’s when I end up with anxiety, because it’s just not working! That’s when I need to remember I’m not in control. I cannot control anything but my choices. We live in a world where dependency as an adult is viewed as a weakness. But dependency on God is not a weakness; it’s a strength, because we are strong in him. We are not complete without him.

I also find writing my worries down helps. A couple friends have talked about putting it in their God box. I haven’t exactly done that, but I find just writing it down somehow helps me process my anxious thoughts and then I can let it go. I don’t understand why it works, but it just does.

Lastly, going for a walk or drive helps clear my mind. I’m not sure if it’s the motion or putting myself in a new scenery that helps, but it just works.

These are some of the things I do that help me. I hope it brings value to you and please share with others you think it may benefit. Please feel free to share in the comments what helps you.

I want to thank my friend Pat for giving me the opportunity to share on this blog and I pray for her full recovery. God be with you.